Mars is officially activating everything again.
After spending most of the last 6 months in the sign of Cancer, Mars is slowly but surely climbing out of it’s shadow and into a more empowered and direct place.
Thinking and feeling will begin to feel less important. Not totally unimportant, of course, but the overwhelming feeling of burden and responsibility should be taking a backseat. There is a lightness that is coming for us, where the depth of emotion transforms into a pride and inspiration. There has been a lot of talk, and not all of it is even close to truth.
Humanity spent time philosophizing over what could be, what has been, and what might be. This has gone so far that we have situations unfolding whose main obstacle is the projected story. These projected stories are about our individual and collective pasts. The blockages we feel are mostly due to traumas, habits, addictions, and memories. These longings have a comfortable nature but won’t offer us anything fruitful.
By this time, we may have ended up with barren shelves and cold distant connections. Where connections have developed, it is time to audit the projections through dialogue and discourse.
The Pride has Arrived
Pride is a dangerous thing. As Mars is activated, it also activates Neptune and Pluto from now until the 26th of April. Beliefs built on the watery psycho emotional projections must be vetted and released. If not, we find ourselves using our energy to confirm something that was never true. This is akin to repainting your prison instead of walking a path to freedom.
Many will choose to confirm their projection. To defend what they hold sacred. This path is not for everyone. Find a way out of what you have been fighting. If something is overwhelming, and it is not under your control, let of it. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. We cannot do everything on our own.
One societal irony that we have been programmed to believe is that ‘doing it all by oneself’ is a high honor. When you look at the world and life in general, this is the most ineffective strategy. Holding things in and carrying excess weight will, over time, weaken us and compromise the collective. Unless we plan on living a life of bitter despair, we must work on receiving help and collaborating with others.
Regardless of whether or not we want to do this, we will have to. When we cannot find the energy to say NO or to say YES, at some point we won’t have a choice but to say either one. Pride can become easily imbalanced. Instead of feeling proud, look to feel calm, peaceful and whole. At the end of the day, no matter what has happened, a strong sense of identity will enrich your life.
The Battle to Soften
I speak with fire and fury, but within James, there is a soft and tender heart. I have spent my life watching him and many friends be used and abused by those who rage with traumatic existential pain. Many cannot fathom the depths of their turbulent unconscious motivations. Instead they leave others to burn in their wake. The aftermath of every addiction began with a deep hurt. The numbing agent or drug also numbs them to their impact on friends, family and environment.
Those who seek positions of heavy influence, power and control are often the most hurt of all. Their hate filled authoritarian rhetoric is a symptom of never loving those hurt parts of themselves. While they may appear sober, they are high off the drug of power and ‘accomplishment’. The drug of ‘winning’ and ‘dominating’. Before long, they are hated and attacked. At this point, the potential for healing within them is almost entirely closed. The underlying feelings are being mirrored so effectively by the world around them that it confirms the unconscious beliefs.
What motivation would they have to change? What motivation would they have to treat themselves or others better?
Not everyone takes this route. Most of the people I know learn from the environment and circumstances that arise. Instead of saying ‘oh they are angry at me… well f&ck them!’ they may consider ‘How did I welcome this experience?’ or ‘What can I learn here?’
So we know that those who are hurt become hardened to life. When we have trauma, the inflammation of spirit can close our hearts. Things aren’t as bright and flowing. Defensiveness is far easier to fall into. When we take this route, we will do everything in our power to avoid feeling the pain. Conversely, those who are on this route (others) appear to be callous and rude, unresponsive to loving advances.
The tough and impermeable shell didn’t happen overnight. Sadly, the softening also will not happen in an instant or from one open hearted interaction. Instead, what is needed is a long term approach. We must be the safe and tender space in which the calcification can begin to wash away and expose the wound.
Softening is just the first step. The wound exists underneath and will increase sensitivity when exposed.
It’s a damn long road! But a few things are undeniably true…
– We all have wounding and defensiveness
– Attacking a callous person only enhances the problem
– It’s hard to love someone who is acting like an asshole
– If we cannot soften, we cannot help others
– We have to want to heal, and that means being vulnerable
– Softening begins with you
– Some people cannot be helped
Begin by Slowing Down
We are allowed to slow down. We are allowed to care for ourselves. We are allowed to disagree with the status quo and launch ourselves forward into a rebellious act of love.
Create room for others to slow down as well
If we cannot handle something, we have the right to completely walk away from it. In the end, we are only responsible for ourselves and the agreements we make. Tread lightly when agreeing to things, for your word is your bond. What we speak is an extension of ourselves.
Trust your intuitive abilities to heal your wounds. That is the approach I have taken, and over the years I have gotten better at being tender with myself.
Can I Care for Myself? :: A Channeled Message
What am I feeling? Am I curious or exasperated? Do I need to make some changes?
My friends there are so many old ways of doing things that simply don’t fit anymore. This is true on the collective level so it almost must be true on the individual level. I urge you not to fight with the collapsing infrastructure around you. If you do choose to fight, make it about a cause that warms your heart, not one that enrages your spirit. Being led into a war is a choice that many will make, just know that they are only sacrificing their lives to perpetuate hatred and discordance.
On a personal level, weather the storm and hold what you love and honor close to your heart. Without this choice, we will wither away and become caught up in a maelstrom of chaotic attacks. Fortify your sense of self with affirmations, quiet time, little acts of self care. To protect your own boundaries and borders, speak up when you desire more from others. Further honor yourself by respecting when others cannot meet those needs.
Balance is found when we speak up for US. Not for them, not for everyone, not for the disenfranchised. There is room for all of that, and it is beautiful and graceful work. Until we fortify ourselves, our words and actions to protect and support others is like throwing a snowball into a volcano. Protect and honor your energy. Even though life is short, is it also a long time. Development comes in stages, take your time and stay consistent.
Build yourself up little by little, feel honored to be in a body. No one will every truly identify with you, so why attempt to do that with others. This isn’t about ‘not caring’, it is about knowing how to care and still allow the universe to unfold.