Intuitive or psychic states are the most natural mode of being. The world we live in is filled with technologies that overwhelm the senses. I love them. The videos, the music, the kitchen tools, the vehicles… they are super cool.
At some point, however, our soul’s desires come front and center. There are things that we know. There are things that we need. To fill these needs, none of the physical creations offer the proper nourishment. With the right approach, however, we can get our fill from anywhere.
Seeking Completion from the Physical World
It is the lens that defines the experience. When the lens is ‘needing’ and ‘seeking’ our wholeness, then life becomes the search. We set the tone that ‘we are looking’. The universe provides, every step we take will be the same distance from that end goal. Like a donkey encouraged by the carrot. We step closer that goal, and the goalpost moves. If we are convinced that we lack wholeness from within, then we are blessed with that truth and will be forever searching.
Lack is ubiquitous… If you look around, you can witness an entire world based off of this belief system. The religion in which I was raised taught me that God is separate from me. God represents the best of consciousness. So, in our world, the greatest gift that can bestowed… oneness with God/Source/Everything is denied upon entry.
I need not pontificate on the ills of the world, for they in fact are not ills. They are, most definitely, challenges that we will face, conquer, and grow from.
So we are taught in numerous ways that we are somehow ‘not enough’. We are left striving for wholeness, acceptance, worthiness. Instead of looking within, we search for wholeness outside of us.
It was at 29 when I was first introduced to meditation and conscious focused self work. Of course I had been always improving as a person, but I wasn’t reclaiming my personal power. In my journey to become ‘better’ I had been sacrificing my energy to the outer and to others in the hopes of catching and holding that feeling of being ‘enough’.
This is my version of looking for myself in the world. I wanted some level of notoriety, a perfect partner, to impress my family and peers. Fortunately, I was broken pretty intensely as a kid. I was taught that I was a ‘failure’ by the adults around me. Because of the maltreatment, I never really bought into conventional norms and accolades.
Consistent abuse has a way of convincing you that you deserve it. The only way to rationalize this in the psyche is to accept lower value. The mind cannot simultaneously accept abuse and also believe we are worthy of exceptional treatment.
If you are in or have been in an abusive partnership, you get it very clearly. How after that relationship, it’s easy to fall right back into a similar connection. We put out a frequency based on how we hold ourselves. Without time to process and rebuild, we call back the experienced that was impressed upon us. Abusers are a perfect match for someone who believes they are unworthy.
Even when we attract someone new and better, it is still hard to maintain. In my life and work, I meet with so many individuals who battle with projection within their partnerships.
If the self value hasn’t been improved, we will see the insecurities projected into even the best partnership. It can get the best of us and we either confront it or become a drain on our partner. I share this as an example of the world we live in. Scarred from the onset, we are all playing a game of projection, reaction, enabling, and repeat. “Am I good enough?” “Is this enough money?” “Is my credit score worthy?”…. I digress
It has become a revolutionary act to simply BE. Those most natural state of all is officially the antidote to the major ills of the world, and to the sicknesses of our own bodies and minds.
We will never find ourselves outside of us. While we may get closer to through adventures and connections to others, these activities and journeys work as a tool to enhance self awareness. No connection to other or attachment to achievement is forever. In this eloquently intelligent universe, we are connected to ourselves first, last, and always. We are intimately tied to all that exists, through the vessel of our self awareness.
We should still have goals, do things, support movements, make stuff, or try to make a name for ourselves. Although I do recommend we should question our motives. In looking for that ‘perfect thing’ outside of ourselves, we must be careful to not inadvertently reinforce feelings of inferiority and emptiness.
Filling the Wholes :: Refreshing Daily Practices
Find what brings you peace and bring it closer to you…
for me it is cooking, keeping an organized home, having exciting or pleasurable things planned for the future. Sometimes even just watching a video of something you like to do can bring a sense of joy.
Take time everyday to be with your feelings…
journaling, meditation, going for a walk, listening to music. This can be challenging when you have kids, a busy job, or a partner. Remember that taking this time for yourself will make all of your other connections stronger. We often don’t feel the full weight of what we carry unless we are alone.
Let go of unneeded things and tasks…
if you don’t have to do it, consider not doing it. If you don’t use it often, consider gifting it or getting rid of it. Having too many things to do is an easy way of avoiding our peace. Having too many possessions fills our time with maintenance of those items. Having less is always more. Plan to do less, this allows you to be creative and feel free.
Learn something new…
part of getting in touch with yourself is getting out of your comfort zone. Our neural pathways need to be challenged and rerouted to avoid personal, societal, and generational patterns and habits. I’m sure there is something you’d like to try. Go do it, go to the new place and see how it goes.
Affirm what is good in you and what is good in others…
this one sounds pretty simple, but you’d be amazed at how far it can go. Making a list of personal qualities and accomplishments is a nice way of loving yourself. The way you feel when you are recognized is pretty intoxicating. Give yourself this cocktail now and then. Do the same for those who are close to you in your life. While it is very easy to complain and be negative, we can easily reroute this by noticing what we love. You will be amazed at how much you love about the people around you, just put your attention on it. There is a reason you are surrounded by these folks, remind yourself why.
Connect with nature…
nature embodies the intelligence of the cosmos. Our bodies are wired to speak this language. The world around us has taught us a new language, but we need to remember our native tongue. Just gazing at a tree is enough. This is your reminder to go barefoot in the woods. This is your reminder to plan an outing next weekend. Go bathe in the Earth’s expression, so you may come back to humanities creations with a new appreciation of life.
Below is a free guided meditation to help reboot you for Eclipse Season and beyond. Feel free to listen here or download it to you device by clicking the little dots on the right side. Thank you and enjoy.
🌟 Guided Meditation :: Return to Wholeness 🌟
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