As we step into this Eclipse cycle and window, there are social, psychological, and emotional themes rising to the surface in my friends, family, and clients. This article is a mediation on these themes. Go enjoy the massive waves of personal growth and awareness. I hope my words serve you well.
Feeling like time is running out
Well, to be honest, time is running out. The old ways of doing things have reached their expiration date. It may be easy to see some of these patterns. The methods through which we make ourselves FEEL better but don’t actually make meaningful changes.
The world isn’t ending, but a certain version of ourselves is ready to be returned to the fold and recycled into something new. It’s like the clothes don’t fit anymore, or the drugs don’t make us feel so good, not like they used to.
This is all part of a bigger shift. One that is bringing us to a more nuanced and objective understanding of reality. Some of the most complicated problems of our time can be solved by letting go of old habits.
As they say ‘old habits die hard’. You will witness this socially. Whether in communities, groups, or internationally, there is an intense pull to keep doing things the same old way.
Remember that there won’t be any saviors or obvious right answers. The way forward is about each of us getting in touch with our own needs. Through this process, we can hatch collective plans.
It’s not exactly a hurried energy, but is definitely imminent. If you find yourself feeling that time is running out, slow down and meditate on the feeling, there are answers within.. something wants your attention.
Feeling that you have to DO something
Well, you do. The main thing that we must do is take responsibility for our role in the creation of our lives. The double edged sword of personal awareness. Feeling connected to a the bigger picture, but also the stabbing yet dense awareness of how we’ve created and asked for our current circumstance.
Certainly (in my humble opinion) knowing is better than the feigned bliss of ignorance. For it is in understanding our capacity to create that we may build a better life and experience for ourselves.
Do we need to change everything all at once? Absolutely not, this would be a disaster.
It does appear that we must, however, find the places and spaces within ourselves where we have relegated our personal power to victimization and cult like thinking.
While there may be much beauty in the agreeable, there is massive growth and unveiling in the confrontation of self and others.
The ability to speak up to the outer world is directly related to our ability to view our shadow and acknowledge the self erected blockages. As I speak to another and attempt to set boundaries, I can only be as clear as I am with my own self.
When I am not aware of my role in creating a situation, I blame others, I blame God.
When this is the case, I cannot work out my issues with others. Instead, I rope them into my inner story as they become part of the unfolding psychodrama. On an interpersonal level, this just complicates families, workplaces, romantic relationships, and friendships. On a larger social scale, it is this lack of personal awareness that fosters the most egregious atrocities that we witness day to day.
Catastrophizing
There is no lack of triggering events these days in the social sphere. Hopefully, in your personal lives, you have folks around you that stay calm and focus on the beauty of life. As old patterns die, the world faces a cataclysm of astronomical proportions.
I want to remind you that you are not responsible for the state of the world, only that of your inner world and thusly, how you project that onto others.
We are not required to involve ourselves in social systems to such a degree that we form hard nosed opinions and sharp judgments of others. We aren’t required to feel the weight of social injustice so much that our lives become consumed.
If you find yourself pitting others viewpoints against your own, you have wandered too far from home. Come back to love, come back to self. Each person is allowed to have their experience. You are neither the villain nor the hero. Others don’t need saving.
When we foster a greater awareness of the universe, through deep self reflection and unattached love, it is easy to see that everything is going to be okay. When we cannot do this, we are left lonely, mired in the trenches of ego warfare. When this is the route we choose, the name calling, the scapegoating, the holier than thou posturing… we are doomed to go down with the ship.
If we cannot foster our own individual identity, we will be ground into mince by forces that will happily use our personal power. This is that feeling of dread. This is that feeling that everything is wrong.
It is actually your body telling you that you are taking a dangerous path of self abandonment.
You weren’t brought here to attack and destroy, you were brought here to heal, connect, and make peace. Peace will not come through abdicating personal power. There is no peace is being a slave or a tool for someone else’s agenda.
The deep pent up societal rage is a symptom of a well intentioned yet misguided attempt at peacekeeping. As few individuals controls the fates of billions, we are left arguing over which tyrant will offer us a more appropriate pittance. Stay out of the fray and welcome the seeming catastrophe. The propaganda machines will have you believing that, if you don’t follow them in lockstep, everything will go to shit.
Nothing could be further from the truth. The only way to find peaceful solutions is to chart your own course. In doing so, you can find the strength and resolve to be patient and empathetic towards those who trigger you. This is where we work together, when we accept the differences and face the triggers with understanding. Peace is found in peace, not fear or attack.
Nostalgia
Reflections on the past 15 years of our lives bring us into reflections on our entire life. The patterns and cycles. The highlights. The little sweet energies that wove themselves into our memories.
All of this is being brought forward into our consciousness. What we do with it is up to us.
A few things to keep in mind…
Nothing is ever the same as it was before. While it may feel as if we can rekindle some fond memory from the past, that just isn’t how it works. We can build new amazing experiences, ones that we can’t even imagine. We cannot, however, recreate our childhood, previous relationships, or any earlier experience.
Those experiences, in fact, came from the bliss and innocence of chance and circumstance. The less control and expectation we hold, the more likely the universe is to bless us with the sweetness of life.
As fond memories and vignettes of the past return to you, soak in all of the beauty. Hold on to the magic that life can offer you. Remember how beautiful those times, connections, and experiences were.
Instead of grasping for a return to these places and spaces, be excited to know that more are in store for you.
Use the opportunity to let go of attachment to past experiences. Sail them down the river of life and wave them a fond farewell. For every moment we hold onto from the past, we are burdened and blocked from witnessing the present.
This is a bittersweet truth. I am no master at the art of unattachment, but I do my best to feel and let go.
Missing something is a fond and familiar feeling. Indulge in that feeling too intensely and you may find yourself craving a moment that has passed and will never return.
The current waves of nostalgia are, in my eyes, the ultimate chance to find gratitude and make peace with the past. To be grateful for what ‘was’ is to be optimistic about what ‘is’. To let go of the longing for them is to open to receive future blessings. Acceptance and attachment are oft diametrically opposed. Find your best way to let go. Feel the memories and love to its core, to its root, to its completion. From here, you’ll find your route out of the past and into the present.
We are Splitting :: Maintain your Center
Splitting is a defense mechanism that involves thinking in extremes, or seeing things in all-or-nothing terms. It’s also known as black-and-white thinking, binary thinking, or thinking in extremes.
You may notice this happening within your own psyche but also collectively. One thing is good so another thing is bad. If you don’t believe ‘this’ then you must believe ‘that’.
This is a sign of a disorganized and stressed mental state. The ability to think critically and carry out debate or discussions becomes all but impossible. The mind seeks some semblance of stability through dogmatic thinking and preserving echo chambers.
Please remember, that when you witness this in others, they are not feeling well. In fact, this is one of the first signs of a breakdown in one’s mental faculties around an issue.
Have you ever been in an argument with a partner or friend and reached this kind of rhetoric?
“Well then I guess you just don’t care about me at all!”
“You never listen to me!”
“If you aren’t going to support my view, then you must be against me!”
When this begins to happen, there is really no way forward until the core issue is addressed. There is a deep emotional distress interfering with the ability to hold nuanced and balanced viewpoints. When in this circumstance, it is best to focus on calming the nervous system of each and every person involved.
Step away from the topic for a bit, go for a walk, put down your phone, ask if it is safe to share a hug.
Good luck with these instances in your personal life, because they will come. It is the nature of human beings to have emotional ups and downs and then do their best to regulate and find balance again.
Social Stressors and Splitting :: Change is Afoot
Socially, however, this is a major issue facing our world. The unspoken stressors of life that many of us feel are creating a constant state of mental and emotional distress. In this state of affairs, it is nearly impossible for many to have civil conversations. We become rigid and refuse to receive new information. We stand staunchly by our ‘beliefs’ which, in fact, were simply reactive attempts to find some peace.
The most well developed ideologies and philosophies require a collection of various viewpoints, challenges, and discussion. To know thyself is a personal journey that requires relationships as learning modules. To understand reality, society, culture, politics, and so on requires all of us to learn from and reflect off of one another.
When the world is in constant distress, this is impossible. Two heads are certainly smarter than one, when each is willing to learn from one another. Two heads are certainly dumber than one, when each is trying to be right and not willing to compromise. In addition, a million might be the dullest of all, when the majority aren’t thinking for themselves, and listening to the strongest opinion in the room. When society has been split into two camps, each thinking that the other is evil or wrong. Separated by the implication of radical shifts, without any real promise of change.
It doesn’t take a genius to realize that I am talking about the political landscape. This is a wonderful example of splitting. Part of me wants to believe that it is a global conspiracy to feed off of us and keep us in check. However, being alive is hard. The world is complicated.
Evil is very real. It appears that the higher up you go on the social ladder and hierarchy, the more evil you will encounter. This is more about the systems in place that require those who enter to be greased and slimy just to play the game.
In all of this, I see the goodness of humanity as opposed to the inherent darkness. Loving humans are pitted against one another in a fight for resources, validation, and inner peace.
Human beings are very trusting creatures. Most every person I have known simply wanted to have a good life for themselves and those whom they care about. Until recently, most folks have just trusted the elected officials, the police, the government. The corruption inherent to these hierarchical power structure is nothing new. The church, the king, those with influence and control of resources, have always been able to do as they please.
Something changed radically in the 1960’s, and the world will never be the same. Human minds are evolving and opening up in a way that can no longer be controlled, suppressed, and lied to en masse. While it doesn’t change all at once, the tide is rising. The individuals in positions of power that still use draconian manipulative propaganda have a target on them. The expiration date has come for these techniques, hopefully they can figure it out and make change, before a wave of social awakening floods their institutions of higher manipulation and takes them with it.
I believe in the goodness of humanity. I also am distinctly aware of the abuse, slavery, indoctrination, and propaganda that has been used for millenia by those in ‘power’ (an illusion of power built on intimidation and manipulation and control of resources both physical and spiritual).
As long as the population, specifically here in America, continues to allow itself to be divided by the media, we will be dull and grey aspects of our greater selves. Stewing in the mess of drivel and rhetoric.
The better question is ‘Why oh Why?’ are we so easily bamboozled.
Look no further than your own emotional regulation. When we cannot regulate ourselves, we cannot be a helpful or functional member of a healthy group. We become a tax on family, friendships, relationships, and communities. Whatever I don’t own and acknowledge, through mindfulness, discipline, and self responsibility, I will project out onto my fellow human and environment.
The tools are out there. Or should I say, the tools are in there. Within you is the guide to your own distinct and divine path. The outer is a show. The input of our closest loved ones are spirit guides speaking to us. The energy displayed by society and large scale media outlets are symbolic of the psychic distress and attempts at control. The social environment will only shift when the inner environments become more regulated. You can’t calm down a child by subjugating them to more abuse and hurtful name calling. You also cannot find purpose in someone else’s dream. We will never find fulfillment in wishes, promises, and fantasies. These things are nice, but let them be inspiration for practical shifts in our current moment.
Thank you for reading.
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Amazing writing… as usual. Lots and lots of deep self reflection going on. I was waiting and now it is time. Hello planets, seems we are in sync.