The new moon in Libra occurs at 28° of the sign. Chiron, Jupiter, and Saturn are all making aspects. At the same time, we are still dancing with the Mercury Mars conjunction and a developing Grand Trine in Water. New moons are about beginnings, endings, or new ways forward. That is true, but the context is nothing new. Finances, relationships, housing, purpose, jobs and lingering frustrations are up for review.
Let’s do it differently now!
Who do you love? Who have you loved? Are they still around? Have their actions caused you pain that inevitably led to healing? Or have they brought you such joy which inevitably led to sadness upon disconnection?
Whatever they did, whomever they are, however it developed… there is one common denominator, and that is YOU.
We are not to BLAME for the things that have happened. However we are the main character in the unfolding. The good, the bad, the ugly all point back to our life stream. As always within this blog, we attempt to look at the bigger perspective. The empowered yet realistic eye that shows belief and faith in the Soul’s journey.
So in the momentary silence of the new moon, a glimpse is available showing us our relational trajectory.
We are working out our childhood…
Relationships are dynamics we develop between ourselves and something/someone else. We can form a relationship with our pets, our job, our home, our internal repeating emotional loops, or obviously a partner.
Within us lies some basic coding. This coding is highly influenced by previous experiences. The stronger the experience, the deeper embedded the code. The most influential of experiences happened in our earliest of years. Before we had the ability to decide, decipher, observe, and choose our response. As an infant, toddler, and child we were subject to many influences that shaped our internal response systems.
School, books, religion, family, music, movies, or television gave us examples. A framework was developed early on. Traumatic experiences punctuated the landscape leaving specific canyons and riverbeds within our psyche. Maybe it was an early death, a divorce, an injury, or being embarrassed, scorned, and shamed.
These shapes are carved into our psyche and define how we respond to stimulus. Unresolved issues are eager to work themselves out in future scenarios. As we get to the age where we can strike out on our own, things begin to unfold.
Partners become our greatest teachers. The healing course brought forth by these teachers will mirror the intensity of the healing we seek.
It’s not a fairy tale…
I was always taught that boy meets girl, fall in love, get married, and forget the world – Bradley Nowell
Well, we can aim for whatever we want. With enough effort, time, and energy, we can probably create it. Relationships, though are a place to learn about ourselves and heal. It is my personal belief that we are drawn towards romanticism so that we can learn our deepest lessons.
We fall in love with a volume (person) within the library (population) of human consciousness. This specific book or person is the expression of a sacred text. This text was written in the stars to assist you in unfolding the twisted and cavorted energy that binds us to deleterious patterns.
The stronger the initial attraction to a person, the more they have to teach you. The longer each of you lingers in each other’s lives, the more you will notice this. It’s not that the magic fades, it is that the true alchemy leans heavy on your soul, asking you to transmute and receive what the person is offering.
These relationships begin to hold us accountable to ourselves. This is uncomfortable. I would hazard to say that we would not have been so attracted to someone if we had already learned what they have to teach us. It’s not exactly a trap, but it’s certainly not the easiest dynamic to figure out.
Over time, the relationship dynamic opens up the parts of us that we, on our own, refuse to open or are challenged to do so. This could begin almost immediately or somewhere around 18 months. Consider how embedded some of these patterns are. Things we would never share with anyone. Over time, an intimate connection full of romantic and sexual excitement softens us and dissolves our walls.
At the same time, while it may be very challenging for us to see our blind spots, they are the most obvious points to others. Blinding ourselves to our own dynamics is like erecting a monument to block the sun from reaching a certain point. We construct architectural masterpieces in order to avoid seeing a piece of ourselves. This mathematical and quasi logical precision only works from our personal viewpoint. For those who get to see us regularly, those points are clear as day.
Thus, the longer you spend with someone, the more light that will actually shine on the LAST places you desire for it to go.
Perhaps the greatest argument for long terms relationships is this exact dynamic. Humans are more likely to deal with their own hidden agendas, psychosis, neurosis, and latent traumas.
Some people are able to stay together through this awakening journey. This can be the most rewarding experience fo your life. If the two people can find common ground and practice self care along the way, they can grow for a lifetime. Often, however, endings in relationships occur when one or both of the individuals has had enough of their psyche challenged. In reality, we can only process so much. Our physical bodies and financial responsibilities demand energy, love, and focus.
An interesting facet of living in a body is that it forces us to find balance between spiritual and physical pursuits.
🔥🔥🔥TWIN FLAMES🔥🔥🔥
A relational dynamic can make you sick while it helps you heal…
Too much of anything is NOT a good thing. Psychonauts understand this. Revelations within medicine journeys can undermine the very foundation of our psyche. Even after the influence of a journey has passed, it can be hard to be in public, feed oneself, or do our work.
Let’s discuss the idea of a ‘Twin Flame’. For most of my 30’s, I was heavily immersed in a New Age community where discussion of this idea was commonplace. It is a theoretical concept so perhaps you have your own bend towards understand this concept.
In my Astrological Consultation practice, a client will occasionally ask me about finding their twin flame. While certain planetary transits could point to the potential for this meeting, you never really know.
***Please develop your own ideas about the Twin Flame concept through research and Soul searching. It can be used as a bait to draw people in. I’ll offer my definition before sharing my insights.***
A twin flame relationship is one in which two individuals have extreme undeniable chemistry. This chemistry dissolves boundaries, walls and blockages to seeing self. The two embark on a journey of self discovery. The ‘other’ becomes an intense mirror. The deeper and longer the connection goes, the more that each shadow comes to light. Over time, each person will inevitably grow in highly transformative and unexpected fashion. Without boundaries, mediation, moderation, communication and a desire to suffer through uncomfortable growth on both sides, it is easy for this connection to become toxic. Even with these practices, the connection is difficult if not impossible to maintain.
What I have learned about the concept of the Twin Flame…
- Synastry charts and the use of declinational aspects can indicate the level and quality of chemistry between two souls. While there are lifestyle and practical factors which could cause a missed connection, two individuals will experience intense chemistry if given the proper scenario to interact.
- People have more than one. At any one point in your evolution, there may only be a few that would fit this role. Over a lifetime, however, thousands of people could play this role. It is about when, where, and how you plug into another person and the trajectory of your life at that time. Personal choice can influence whether someone is accepted into this role or ejected at any time.
- A twin flame can be an enemy. This could be a boss or competitor. Twin flame isn’t about good vibes, it is about each person learning and growing.
- The biggest misconception is that this person should be your primary romantic or sexual partner. While this is likely the most instinctual way to connect with this person, it is an agreement to have a lot of something that is already very intense. While the last thing one might want to do is have boundaries or moderation… it is exactly what is called for.
- Obsession is part of the dynamic. Obsession doesn’t always bring out the best in us. We may find that we just can’t stop thinking about the person. In reality, we are hungry for more of that illusion dissolving energy. The soul hungers for this exact feeling. While our lives often ‘fall apart’ when we have too much of it. It is like being obsessed with self destruction. At least the part that is being destroyed is ‘in the long run’ helpful.
- Make peace with the person and the dynamic. The more stubborn we are, the more hidden our wounds, the more secrets we have… the bigger the explosion that will come from these connections. When this occurs, there comes a self preservation survival response of projection. We end up pointing blame in an attempt to manage the deep pain and confusion we feel. Sadly, this is like setting fire to our own soul. Though it may be a lifetime of work, find love through this process of healing. Without a spiritual concept of life, this is likely impossible.
- They are trying to give you something that you need. Like starships docking at a galactic port, these individuals are not only meeting on earth, but in the cosmos. It is likely that the two of you have similar arcs within the universe. Perhaps even shared alternate lives (past, concurrent, or future lives). The exchange is a necessity, so be open to giving and receiving without holding on too tight. Once the transaction has occurred, the chemistry may fade. This can feel like a monumental task, so be patient and practice discipline if you want to enjoy this person.
- Once the magic fades, it becomes a choice to be together. Like renewing a lease, it’s not always a good idea. Once there is a separation, that person will always be there, but on a spiritual level. Practice connecting to them in this way through prayer and meditation. When they do well, you do well, and vice versa.
Take stock in your relational dynamics…
Within the next few days the sun and the moon will enter scorpio and this awareness can be put to use in activation. Take stock of what you have learned over the last few weeks. Ensure that you won’t forget about these things. You need them. They have been dropped off at your consciousness so that you can make subtle changes. Take back your energy from projection and allow others to be themselves. You don’t have to help them… in fact, helping them might just be holding them back.
Help yourself, be a kind person, and don’t be afraid to be honest, even if it stirs the pot.
Do these words resonate with your experiences? How are these times teaching you? Relationships are always intense and bring a lot to the surface. Whether you want to learn about a previous or current connection, astrology can be very insightful.
James is gifted at seeing energy dynamics through the natal chart. He can help you bring peace, resolution, and helpful practices to your connections.
Learn more about your own healing journey in a session with James. Intuitive messages are delivered with wisdom from the cosmos.
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